I don’t like to be in large social gatherings.
I get anxious about meeting new people and going to new places.
I don’t like to open up.
I have no interest in/can’t keep up with small talk.
I look for corners in rooms.
I sometimes like to make a spectacle and be goofy in public. Sometimes.
I need several hours (and sometimes days..) to emotionally detox from social events.
I may come across as snobbish and brutally honest.
But I am an INTROVERT.
Recently, I began reading a book titled “Introverts in the Church: Finding Our Places in an Extroverted Culture” by Adam S. McHugh. I’m not far into this book, but it sure got the wheels turning in my head.
In and out of the church, our American culture, in general, seems to favor extroversion.
For example: Job interviews. Need I say more?
How likely is it that when walking into an interview, you will put a big ol’ smile on your bright-eyed bushy-tailed face ready to answer all questions with extreme enthusiasm? VERY LIKELY. Why? Because extroversion is advantageous in our society.
If you can keep up a conversation & easily make friends/connections with peers/acquaintances, you’re good to go in American society. If you can’t do those things, people think you’re snobby, shy, or don’t care. I know for sure that this isn’t true about me at all.
I want to be a stellar communicator and social butterfly.
But should I be frustrated with who I am or should I accept it and hope others do too?
I tend to lean towards the latter, although it is hard.
I’m sure all introverts understand the feeling of exhaustion from constantly forcing the facade of extroversion.
It is physically & mentally exhausting to be outgoing and sociable – and makes me want to spend every free moment at home curled up in a cozy blanket with TAZO green tea in my favorite Anthropologie mug.
All that being said, I really can’t imagine living in an introverted culture.
Nobody would ever talk to each other.
Nobody would know anything about the person to their left or right.
Everyone would stay at home curled up on the couch with tea all the time.
Thank God for extroverts. Ya’ll keep us introverts on our toes. We need that.
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